Have you heard of something called Imposter Syndrome? I hadn’t until a few months ago. The term was actually coined in the late 70s by Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes. It’s the feeling of being inadequate or like a fake that you get deep down inside. It can appear despite having success and is a doubt in your mind.
The term “impostor phenomenon” is used to designate an internal experience of intellectual phoniness that appears to be particularly prevalent and intense…Pauline Rose Clance & Suzanne Imes
A lot of us experience this at some point in our lives, whether it’s at work or our personal lives. But how do you move past the mindset of not feeling good enough?
When I’m having a hard time, I make sure I do the following to reinstate positivity into my thoughts.
- Put yourself in someone else’s shoes. If one of your friends were telling you how that they felt as you do, what would you say? You wouldn’t justify their feelings, you’d build them up. You’d reaffirm to them that what they’re doing is great and that they are better than they think. Try this on yourself next time you feel like a phoney in your own head.
- Write down positive affirmations. I want to start journalling again is to give myself a resource to go to when I’m in a negative mindset. Writing down wins and successes, big or small, is the perfect way to see all the great things you’ve done.
- Get out of your own space. Getting outside, even if it’s just a short walk to the shop, gets me out of my own head. By the time I’m home, I’m moving on from the way I was feeling or my rational thoughts are back. Giving yourself a pep-talk is sometimes all I need to stop imposter syndrome starting to settle in.
- Talk about it. This can be the hardest thing to do but if you’re really struggling, speak to someone about your feelings. Whether it’s a friend or a family member, tell them about your thoughts and seek affirmation from someone external. You’ll see a new perspective and, often, a quick word of positivity from a friend is all you need.
Have you ever felt like an imposter in your own head and not felt like you can do something that you’re good at? How do you deal with the thoughts in your head to get back to a positive mindset?